One of the major benefits of online dating is the ability to remain anonymous. As we all know there is something about an air of mystery that excites many of us. The less a person reveals about themselves, the more we want to know about them. That is human nature and its something online dating exploits quite effectively. Being anonymous also seems to liberate many of us. People become less inhibited about sharing their inner thoughts online with people they really don't know.
And that brings us to the flip side of being anonymous online; the power to deceive. Whether it's exaggerating a dating profile or putting up a fake picture, online dating comes with built in pitfalls. Even if you are with a dating service that does a great job of screening prospective suitors, there is no one hundred percent guarantee. Many people that lie are quite good at it and being anonymous only sharpens their skills.
Are you being misled? Here are some ways you can find out.
1. Good Answer. Maybe Too Good.
They like the same things you do. In fact they like everything you like. This should get your antenna working. Why? For the simple reason there is no such thing as one hundred percent compatibility. It does not exist in the offline world so do not expect it online just because you have more would-be dating partners to choose from.
Of course the other person could be doing this for a number of reasons. They may really want you to like them, so they figure telling you what you want to hear is the best way to do this. They maybe unthrilled by their own life's history, so avoid any mention of their likes and dislikes. Or it could be something more sinister. You don't know so be on guard.
2. That's Not What You Said the Last Time
Your date tells you about the time they saved those ten kids in an apartment house fire ("maybe you read about it"). The next time it's twelve. Or they tell you the reason they broke up with their ex is because of family disapproval. The next time you discuss it the reason has changed to mutual consent. Why the discrepancies? Exactly what are they trying to hide? If they continue to change the stories or become quite defensive when you point out the inconsistencies, then watch out.
3. You Got a Feeling
The answers the other person gives are to your liking. The stories are consistent and seem to check out But your heart still says avoid them like the plague. What do you do? Go with your instinct. There is no logical rhyme or reason when it comes to instinct but in more cases than not, it has been known to steer many of us away from potentially disastrous situations. Your instincts maybe able to pick up things that are not so obvious.
The power of being anonymous has been taken to a new level with online dating but that does not give someone the right to deceive. If the other person's answers seem too good, too inconsistent or your intuition is telling you no, then it's best to avoid them. You are online to have fun and develop a relationship. Lying is not part of the equation.
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Showing posts with label internet safety. Show all posts
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Internet Dating Online - 3 Ways to Make Sure You Play It Safe by D.W Campbell
According to recent numbers, 40 million Americans have jumped into the online dating pool. The amount of usage and particular dating agencies varies per individual of course but even with taking these things into account, online dating is becoming more comfortable and accessible to the general population. For instance, Online Dating Magazine estimates there are over 120,000 marriages per year that are a direct result of internet dating. These numbers are only going to grow as the online dating becomes more interactive
Unfortunately there is a flip side. Many of us have heard or seen the stories about online hookups that have gone tragically wrong. While these incidents remain in the definite minority, they do exist.
Many free online dating services have yet to implement a screening process. The result is you really do not have any guarantees about the other person you are trying to meet. But let us face it; even if they prescreen applicants thoroughly, people have been known to lie. This means the responsibility of online dating safety falls squarely on to your shoulders. Use the following tips as guidelines and then later on add more of your own.
1. Good Judgment
None of us is perfect so you can never be right one hundred percent of the time but trusting someone online that you just met with the most intimate details of your life is not a good idea. In fact, it is downright dangerous. Trust has to be earned offline so the same should go double on the internet. If you sense the person on the other end is lying, then there is a strong likelihood they probably are.
It is not only the lack of telling the truth that should set off bells and whistles. Maybe they seem a little too aggressive in their answers or way too anxious to meet you immediately. Whatever the case, keep your thinking logical and your common sense on high alert.
2. Go Slow on Sharing Personal Information
You have probably seen those online dating profiles where the person volunteers every bit of their personal information including the exact hour they were born. Eventually you are going to share things like your phone number and home address but do not rush it. Also make sure your signature file is turned off or at the very least, it does not have any identifying information. Do a little bit more chatting and investigating.
3. One Phone Call Away
Okay so you both agree that it is time to hear each other's voices. Now you are still in the investigation phase so do yourself a favor and call from a public phone (no need to give your cell phone or home number just yet). You should be able to get a better feel for the other person by having a phone conversation. Do you sense something in their tone or words that make you uneasy? Are the answers a little too perfect for your taste (i.e. telling you what they think you want to hear?). After you hang up do some serious analyzing. If you have to talk it over with someone close to you, than by all means do so.
Online dating is the new wave and it can be a lot of fun but to get the most out of it, you must include safety as one of your top priorities. There are other steps that you should follow but start by going slow with sharing your personal information, the phone conversation and above all exercise good judgment. Keep in mind that it is better to be unhurried and overly cautious, than to let your emotions rush you into a bad situation.
There are a lot of questions you don't want to ask your date - but are absolutely necessary. If you are heading towards a serious relationship you MUST ask these 1,000 Questions for Couples
Article Source: http://articlefree4all.com
Unfortunately there is a flip side. Many of us have heard or seen the stories about online hookups that have gone tragically wrong. While these incidents remain in the definite minority, they do exist.
Many free online dating services have yet to implement a screening process. The result is you really do not have any guarantees about the other person you are trying to meet. But let us face it; even if they prescreen applicants thoroughly, people have been known to lie. This means the responsibility of online dating safety falls squarely on to your shoulders. Use the following tips as guidelines and then later on add more of your own.
1. Good Judgment
None of us is perfect so you can never be right one hundred percent of the time but trusting someone online that you just met with the most intimate details of your life is not a good idea. In fact, it is downright dangerous. Trust has to be earned offline so the same should go double on the internet. If you sense the person on the other end is lying, then there is a strong likelihood they probably are.
It is not only the lack of telling the truth that should set off bells and whistles. Maybe they seem a little too aggressive in their answers or way too anxious to meet you immediately. Whatever the case, keep your thinking logical and your common sense on high alert.
2. Go Slow on Sharing Personal Information
You have probably seen those online dating profiles where the person volunteers every bit of their personal information including the exact hour they were born. Eventually you are going to share things like your phone number and home address but do not rush it. Also make sure your signature file is turned off or at the very least, it does not have any identifying information. Do a little bit more chatting and investigating.
3. One Phone Call Away
Okay so you both agree that it is time to hear each other's voices. Now you are still in the investigation phase so do yourself a favor and call from a public phone (no need to give your cell phone or home number just yet). You should be able to get a better feel for the other person by having a phone conversation. Do you sense something in their tone or words that make you uneasy? Are the answers a little too perfect for your taste (i.e. telling you what they think you want to hear?). After you hang up do some serious analyzing. If you have to talk it over with someone close to you, than by all means do so.
Online dating is the new wave and it can be a lot of fun but to get the most out of it, you must include safety as one of your top priorities. There are other steps that you should follow but start by going slow with sharing your personal information, the phone conversation and above all exercise good judgment. Keep in mind that it is better to be unhurried and overly cautious, than to let your emotions rush you into a bad situation.
There are a lot of questions you don't want to ask your date - but are absolutely necessary. If you are heading towards a serious relationship you MUST ask these 1,000 Questions for Couples
Article Source: http://articlefree4all.com
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