Recently on Match, Violet, my friend, met a guy. She loves camping and is fearful of blue foods, and so was he. Combined with her comfort-level of online dating, Violet agreed to a first date after only a few emails.
"I met him in the bar of the new sushi restaurant downtown, and before we'd even sat down for dinner he went in for a kiss," Violet said. "I turned my face so he only got my cheek, but I was like 'hello, can I at least have a drink first?'"
Violet said he laughed it off and then reached for her hand. When she pulled her hand away he put his arm around her shoulders. Violet and I agree that men like this could be desperate, misunderstood, or maybe just unable to decipher social cues, but creepy nonetheless.
Finally, they sat down for dinner and he took off his right shoe promptly. Do people really play footsy, by the way? He did do the footsy thing and as far as I know this is what characters in a movie do, not people in real life!
Anyhow, Violet's response was to scowl. She has what should be a patented scowl, one that I've never been able to duplicate. It's a mixture of shock, disgust, frustration, and disapproval. I wish I could describe it better, but I'm unable to find words for the way she contorts and scrunches her facial muscles along with the way she drops her head to look at you from the corner of her eyes. It's a talent only she possesses and a message her date should have received immediately.
"At this point, there were so many problems with him," explained Violet. "To start, he wasn't smart enough to know my scowl meant to back off. It felt like he was flirting the way men do in soft-porn, so I just asked him what his problem was. I said, 'don't you know how to behave on a date?'"
"This is what it's like to have someone come on to you, don't you know?" he said as he laughed and grabbed her hands from across the table.
"I don't like it, and yah, I do know what it's like," said Violet as he ran his ten fingertips across hers. "Are your fingertips itchy, why are you touching me still?"
She decided to stay and struggle through the dinner, but only because she felt it was an opportunity to help all woman-kind everywhere, or at the minimum at least help the next Match.com victim. Sadly all her efforts were lost on him. The next day, in the customary follow-up Match e-mail, he wrote that he enjoyed their date and looked forward to kissing her voluptuous lips and holding hands for real, "like grown ups do."
"Like grown-ups do" sounds dirty, and Violet didn't know exactly what it meant. She wrote back saying "I absolutely won't go out with you again. Also, please keep your shoes on when you're in public. "
I couldn't have said it better. Violet, well done. Here is a recap for those of you out there that find yourself on a date with an itchy-fingered man:
Make a joke about him being too affectionate Give a dirty look Ask him what his problem is Advise him of his dating practice faux pas Advise him of his dating practice faux pas in a follow e-mail
About the Author: Sara Musfeldt has a website filled with dating stories and dating tips for everyone. She has also produced an online dating guide to help single people everywhere find a date.
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